It scares me how self absorbed everyone is becoming. I think a lot of it stems from the fact that our generation wants every one of them to be special. We want to make history. Every one of us wants to leave a mark. And this makes us self absorbed to a a point where it just becomes unbearable.
I have been observing a lot of people like this. Specially the people in fashion. In fashion, everyone aspires to be “some thing”, something so different and unique. Uniqueness is what a lot of individuals in fashion strive for. And in this quest of trying to be different, there’s some personality traits of the people that get washed out in monotony. And that monotony is how they try and break the stereotype, all of the guys, and in turn end up creating a new stereotype that I sometimes question if it is the right way to go about it. Being unique is awesome, but somewhere along the way of trying to be different we get lost in the uniqueness, we lose ourselves.
It devours us. It makes us different, yes, but somehow it alienates us from the rest. It steals our identity. People cannot see past it. I think the ability to relate with others matters a lot. And if one cannot relate beyond the desire to be unique, and not achieve some sort of purity in the process, I think that one’s being different is of no use. Fashion is supposed to inspire, and evoke feelings, emotions and thoughts that other forms of art cannot. And if a person is so oblivious to the rest of the world, i think the art just fails to leave the mark. That’s one of the reason the cohesiveness of the collection matters so much.
It’s only cohesive if the people staring down the runway see the cohesiveness; the cohesiveness is not just for the designer him/herself, but the ones who see the piece of clothing, and the ones who wear it.
Yes, being weird will get you noticed, and I firmly believe in the quote of Andy Worhol
In the future, everyone will be famous for 15 minutes
Yes, you shall get your fifteen minutes, after that, what? What will you do after that? Who will you be? Will you be someone so deluded by the weirdness and the fickleness of the industry that takes micro seconds to change?
But if you think about it in terms of art, i think it is very necessary to be different and think different. Because a person’s art is an embodiment of who they are and if one is not different, does not think different, how will one create something different. But it does not justify being a self absorbed diva. I think people think being a diva is going to accredit them in front of others. What it does, in turn, is just cone off as very crass and bitchy. Confidence is also something that matters, but it doesn’t mean to diss people. I think a lot of people just think their word is the final verdict, for themselves. But if one thinks that way, how will the mind open up to experiencing and absorbing new things. Its like one needs to be vulnerable to a point where the vulnurabilities become strengths. Get what i mean?
You just need to see deeper than the shallowness projected by fashion. You need to look deep into yourself, regardless of what the fashion makes you believe. You need to find you, and embrace what makes you unique. Not be unique for the sake of being different. What if you are just like the rest of us? What if one is not that unique? You don’t need to be a diva to get far. When Tyra Banks says Fierce, it means embrace the weirdness of you. Not what other people think of you. You can only be fearless if you are true to your roots.
Can you still survive? Yes. You can. Just be you. Do what you love and be who you are.
Superficiality is very transparent. One can see right through it. Be opaque. Be deep. Be who you were meant to be. Be skin deep.